servicesADHD Relationships
The ability to manage and understand conflict or arguments is the foundation of a good relationship. Couples counselling assists to recognise, gain understanding, resolve, and improve your relationship.
ADHD in relationships often can have profound effects and can make the strains of everyday life feel overwhelming and unsolvable.
Areas of conflict often develop with difficulties in listening and paying attention, having trouble completing tasks, inability to handle responsibilities, impulsive behaviours, and emotional overreactions.
For a non-ADHD partner, miscommunication, misunderstanding, running late, forgetting things, and acting impulsively are some of the areas of frustrations they experience.
Whilst we all have our own neurodiversity – and that’s healthy – sometimes we require guidance to show us how to slow down, look at the issues and create effective ways to communicate that work for both.
The goal is to grow our understanding of each other and build into the relationship new skills to manage conflict, disagreements to become less emotionally reactive, solve issues together and learn new ways of interaction.
When working with adults with ADHD, counselling can assist in learning new ways to replace unwanted behaviours with behaviour modifications. They’ll gain a greater understanding of ways to handle their emotions and frustrations, improve self-esteem, set goals, manage time, and recognise unhealthy ways of communicating.
Engaging in family counselling can help everyone in the family better understand the adult with ADHD and the symptoms they’ll have carried from their childhood. This perspective is invaluable to strengthen the family bond.
In relationships and families, I often see disconnects and walls developing. This stems from feelings of criticism, underlying insecurities, differing standards, and life management. All resources feel stretched, anxiety and stress increases; resulting in feelings of helplessness, hurt, distance and grief.
Educating ourselves to understand, empathise and gain insight and awareness are key factors to gaining back a relationship with a loved one with ADHD.
Some benefits of attending counselling for ADHD in relationships and families:• Focus and clarity.
• Better self-awareness and self-esteem.
• Learn to build stronger relationships.
• Better physical and mental health.
• Feel more optimistic about the future.
• Relationship development – home, work, families, friends
Whilst it may feel there’s no room for change, with the right guidance, support and desire for learning new ways of being, there is hope. New skills can be learned, and destructive patterns can be improved. A guiding hand to feel more confident and less anxious, while addressing some of the challenges make for positive change and greater mutual happiness.
Your needs and values will be at the core of our therapy work together.
